学会做一个豁达的人

豁达是一种生活的姿态。豁达了你就不会去斤斤计较,生活里的得失,豁达了你就能在平凡的生活中寻找到快乐。豁达了,你就不但自己能在平凡的生活中寻找到快乐,而且还能把你寻找到的快乐送给别人。拜读完他的诗句,我心里感触很深!是啊,豁达的确是人生的一种生活的姿态,更是一种待人处事的思维方式。它一部分来源于性格,但更多的缘于修炼:性格的修炼,心性的修炼,学识的修炼,境界的修炼。豁达是人的智慧中不可缺少的一部分,豁达的人是最完整的人。豁达了,你就能在生活中寻找到快乐并把快乐送给别人。

豁达是一种自信的体现。因为人生如旅途跋涉,难免会有凄风苦雨相伴。对于人生的不如意,不同的人有着不同的接受方式。悲观的人会自哀自怜,怨天尤人;豁达的人则会把它当成锻炼自己的机会,并能换个角度去考虑,就是泪水也会伴着笑声流。这就是豁达!豁达的人不会因为自己的一次失败而一蹶不振,因为他们相信天生我才必有用,失败只是他们成功之路上的铺路石而已。豁达更是一种从容,豁达的人把个人的得失看得很轻,并且对自己有着足够的自信,所以他们能做到猝然临之而不惊,无故加之而不怒。更有着任凭风浪起,稳坐钓鱼台的从容。学会豁达的人,就会宁静淡泊,正视人生。笑看庭前花开花落,静望天上云卷云舒。
豁达是一种大度,一种胸襟。豁达的人往往有着宽广的胸怀,有着海纳百川的气势。豁达的人不会为小事而斤斤计较,更不会为个人的得失而郁郁寡欢。豁达的外在体现形式就是宽容。正因为豁达的人有着宽广的胸襟。所以他们可以容他人所难容之事。豁达的人更有着惊人的免疫力。尖刻、势利、贪婪、嫉妒几乎与他无缘。他更不会文过饰非,乃至于暗箭伤人。他光明磊落,是个热爱别人也为别人所热爱的人。豁达的人能战胜千百次失败后的沮丧,百折不挠;豁达的人重新奋起,不畏讥讽、中伤、打击、陷害,义无返顾,走自己的路;豁达的人即使到了山穷水尽处,仍能眺见柳暗花明;豁达的人勇于承认别人的长处,善于发现和调整自己的短处。
豁达是人活着的一种因素,是生存的艺术。那豁达的人,有着健康向上的思想,潇洒、坦荡、热情、开朗,决不会被生活中琐碎的小事所困扰。他如一条江、象一条河,滔滔滚滚,直奔大海。豁达的人宽容大度,在他面前,不必为说错一句话而担惊受怕,不必为做错一件事而惴惴不安。因为他是个明智的人,他清楚地意识到:任何人,包括自己,是不可能不犯错误的。他听到逆耳忠言会报以感谢,听到谗言诽谤只会一笑了之而绝不发怒。然说,豁达的胸怀是靠看不见的内涵作为基础的。但俗话说,境由心造。每一个人每一样事物若都能以这么博大、高尚的心境来容纳一切的话,那么世界就会变得像水晶般可爱、美丽。对于女人来说,豁达不仅意味着一种超然,它更是一种智慧。
豁达可以让世界海阔天空,豁达可以让争吵的朋友重归于好,豁达可以让多年的仇人化干戈为玉帛,豁达可以让兵戎相待的两国和平友好。俗话说,多一个朋友总比多一个敌人强,那么,豁达就是这样的一种大智慧。
在生活当中,人人都能以不同的角度理解豁达的涵义,人人都在用心追求豁达大度的意境。然而,却很少有人能真正地成为一个豁达的人。其实,一个人的快乐并非因为他拥有的多,而在于他计较的少。很多人都知豁达能给自己带来愉快,但又无法停止各种猜疑,乃至陷入世事纷争而不能自拔,没一天安稳日子过。久而久之就走向了豁达的对立面——狭隘。狭隘的人斤斤计较,容不得一丝一毫的吃亏。狭隘的人要变得豁达,首先就要摒弃各种世俗杂念,不去理会那些堵塞心胸的噪音、玷污举止的画面;其次要善于原谅人,多和诚恳之人交朋友,从他们身上学习为人处世之道。生活中许多糟糕事,听了见了徒增烦恼,不如不听,不如不看。那么当我们闭上双眼,就能看到心中无限的世界美轮美奂;当我们掩上双耳,即听到大自然生机盎然的勃发之声。
其实磨难是最好的试金石,人生的磨难能赋予豁达的人更加成熟的魅力。拥有豁达才可能真正拥有快乐的人生。如果我们能保有一份好心情,提高适应环境的能力,保持乐观向上的精神状态,使自己进入洒脱豁达的境界,我相信,我们就掌握了生命的主动权,就能在生活中寻找到快乐并把快乐送给别人。

This is an very interesting article. The author is 我心飞翔. Interesting name too. This is the kind of person that we should all try to be :)

Working hard to be a 豁达 person!! :) :):)


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I AM BACK!!!!

To all my concerned and caring friends,

I am REBORN! :)

I have been unhappy for quite some time now but I had already gotten over it and I will become the old cheerful bei that everyone knows me as! :)
I hereby apologise to all my friends who had been worried about me, who had been thinking what happened to the talkative haolian seh. Don’t worry I AM BACK!!!!

For people who are worrying or wondering what happened, don’t think too much ba. I wouldn’t explain too much here. Just wanna say, nothing is too hard to overcome :)

and I am ON DIET now!! :) Started eating less and swimming!!

So, don’t ask me to go eat/buffet/steamboat/whatever! haha !! :)

Love everyone!!

ps: maybe didnt want to talk too much coz mid-life crisis..maybe too fat..hahhaa

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用力抱着

寂寞时你像个贝壳
闭上眼你倔强地捂住双耳
背对背地坐着我们用沉默在拉扯
看谁的泪先输掉拔河

爱我时你不够严格
总忘了能够牵手多麽难得
我不怕生命有挫折
不怕回忆会有皱摺
唯有你说要放弃我不愿附和

你心里有多少忐忑
交给我去用力抱着
双手还有热或许能唤起你的不舍
有一天我们伤的心会愈合

心里的忐忑
抱着慢慢就会好的
感动都有了还有什麽不认可
不准我们把爱给走成了坎坷

多少恋人不费唇舌
在一起却说服彼此不适合
我懂得生命有沼泽
懂得爱会失去光泽
只是在你怀里是快乐的抉择

我心里也有的忐忑
曾经你也勇敢抱着
思念还有歌唱着我无法对你割舍
相信我们伤的心会愈合

心里的忐忑
时间跟我说会好的
决心放好了
这一次非你不可
若这不是爱那有过的是什麽

Short one…

Why can’t we all live our life like fairy tales? Aren’t happy endings the most beautiful??

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Big Reunion 2009

YES! I know I haven’t update here for a little while! It’s not that long right? :)

Since ever Meiki came, I slept much earlier than usual, resulting in not able to update late at night! hehehe..because she will kill me if I continued using the computer when she wanted to sleep! :P It’s such a good excuse for not updating!

September was really fun for me! Two Batam Trips and a big reunion!!  Just a brief update! Nothing interesting!

Meiki reached Singapore from Hong Kong on the 24th September. Miss miss-a-flight missed her flight AS USUAL! My god! To think that she purposely bought a pair of expensive tickets from Singapore Airlines just to try out A380. But SHE MISSED IT!!! Anyway, she still got here la! Two hours later:P
Bibi and Johnny reached Singapore from Taiwan on the 25th September. Sharon, Jennifer, Frances and Ethan were on the same flight too! (Sounded like a lot of friends? HAhaa..they are Yaya’s family members) Hang out with Yaya’s family at the hotel for a long while while waiting for Yaya to arrive in Singapore. Then Yaya, Jack, David and a friend reached the same day at night. Didn’t it sound exciting? As if they were all here to visit me! :P But we did go for supper at Newton Circus. Oh ya, JJ was here from Indonesia on this day too. Haha..Half of them were here for F1 Race while the rest were just tagging along for some fun!

Our big reunion was on the  26th September afternoon. We went to Jumbo Seafood @ Dempsey Hill. Yaya’s family didn’t attend though. Anyhow, it was a fun day and we took like hundred of photos in Jumbo and also Holland Village’s coffee bean. Was planning to go to Ng Ah Sio Pork Rib (Ba Gut Teh) for breakfast and then Sentosa the next day. However, Deng felt acute pain in her stomach at 3.30am in the morning. In the end, me , her and meiki ended up at the hospital until 7.30am! Then of course, we had to cancel the program for the day as we were all too tired. Had a very relaxing day at home watching silly taiwanese drama :D Monday came and we all had to work. However, we met up with Bibi and Johnny for dinner and also bumped into Yaya’s whole family (without yaya) at Night Safari. I brought Ashley along and she really entertained everyone with her noise and non-stop talking :P Ethan kinda liked Ashley too! haha…kids are soo cute! Had a very filling supper at Newton Circus after Night Safari.

Yup! Everyone gone home and Faye was here for a day and back to Indonesia too. Meiki went to Batam with her friends too. Today is a day for rest :) And really busy at work! Continue later!

Ps: Ho Wah Travel is hiring. Please call me for more details :)

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